Transformative thinking describes the way we think when, instead of defending ourselves or making our certainly grandiose solutions, we consciously remain in the situation and with our interlocutor, without being able to to manipulate his thinking, or to tell him about his own wealth of experience.
Transformative thinking therefore means that one sticks to the matter completely, as is described in the generative listening. Inevitably, our way of thinking from the normal state, the transactional thinking to the transformative thinking, changes.
We have the chance to build a relationship with our counterpart, as we fully engage with what has been said. This is where the difference between empathy and sympathy comes in. Am I sympathetic I try to bring my experience world to the fore. But am I empathetic, I stick with my counterpart and what is said, without evaluating it or comparing my own experiences with the situation that has been heard.
We are also concentrating on how something is said. The conversation gets its own dynamic. Instead of back and forth, the conversation moves impulsively and can be characterized by sudden new insights. We leave the other person to have personal responsibility for solving the problems by not trying to offer solutions. By paying full attention to our counterparts, we signal mindfulness and empathy. Confidence and connectedness are created.
If this kind of thinking takes place in a group, a sense of community arises. Together, it is now possible to get into a whole new creative mode. Transformative thinking can be experienced in this way. It can lead to so-called choice creation if the group has already practiced appropriately intensively in listening, for example in a dynamic facilitation session.